I slammed the book closed and flung it across the table, suddenly aware of my public outburst when the school librarian told me to collect my things and “behave like a lady.” Glaring at her, I stomped out and stared down my giggling classmates. My eyes screamed, Don’t fuck with me…
Liars! Robbers! I was a runaway train, challenging everyone on the way home with an anger I couldn’t even fathom. Come on, I was saying. Take me on!
Cutting through the Jewish cemetery as the crisp fall air stung my lungs, I hopped over the graves of dead people and muttered, “Excuse me,” not wanting to disturb the resting souls and remembering what the minister at our United Methodist Church said about respecting the dead. Did one have to die to be respected?
Lorraine hummed a song to herself, her golden hair resting on the backseat of Mom’s car. She saw me staring at her and wrapped her arm around me.
“Don’t worry, sissy,” she said, “it’s not so bad.” Yes it is! I wanted to cry.
Tell her everything! But I couldn’t speak. I could only stare at her in awe and hope that one day maybe I would be as peaceful and strong and pretty as she was.
Mom splurged on a brand-new dress for their first date. She was ready when he arrived, looking gorgeous in her pale peach taffy-colored outfit.
She seemed embarrassed to have him see our dirty apartment and she rushed around quickly gathering her things to go.
Washing clothes in the kitchen sink and sneaking glances at the two of them, I got annoyed when he came over and exclaimed, “Lookeeeeeeee, she’s showing me how she does her laundry!” like it was some kind of game for his benefit. No, bonehead, I thought, disgusted, I’m doing my laundry because my socks are standing up by themselves and Mom is too busy with you to care. I felt he was just another clueless grown-up and wrote him off immediately, ignoring him. Glad to see him leave, I finished my kitchen duties and took up my guard post in the living room, falling asleep by the TV as I waited for Mom to come home.
I was pissed that she had chosen him over us. Barely eleven, I was too young to be in charge of raising my eight and nine-year-old sisters. And although twelve-year-old Lorraine really carried the weight of this
responsibility, I still felt overwhelmed by my siblings’ needs. What kind of mother leaves four young children alone in a house while she sleeps in her boyfriend’s van? She even let him run a plug from our house to his “house on wheels” so that it stayed warm. Meanwhile, the long orange extension cord that ran down the icy sidewalk and poked under our front door brought a freezing draft with it.
During this first “family” vacation, I began to see Roger as a provider, which was something we all desperately needed. At eleven years old, I didn’t realize teaching us how to steal was wrong. I was just glad he was there And so, I slowly began to let my guard down and trust him.
It started on that long trip to the Keys, when I awoke from a deep sleep feeling cold.
I sat up, realizing my tube top was pulled all the way down, exposing my breasts. I didn’t know what time it was, or where we were, but it was dark outside and I could just make out Roger standing near me.
My sisters were snoring under mounds of covers, the curtain up front was closed, and Roger was right over me, zipping up his pants. I was disoriented, confused. Where am I? What’s going on? He just stood there, staring at my breasts.
After a moment, he turned away and opened the curtain. Mom was driving, and he moved into the copilot seat. He tried to make a joke about it to her, announcing loudly that my top fell down and “Hee hee hee, look at her little poached eggs!”
Hot with fury, I pulled up my top. Mom smiled in my direction and scolded Roger lightly with a “Behave now.” It was all just a funny joke. She couldn’t see what I was going through. How upset I was! I felt violated and had no idea why.
Again. I doubted my instincts. Surely Mom would tell me if something was wrong. I had to believe that. She was my mom. So I got angry with myself, for not knowing the answers and for doubting the very people who loved me.
A panic rose in my chest as I thought of my father. Dad would never let us go. What kind of trouble was she trying to start? I sat there sweating in my plastic chair, waiting for Mom to continue. “You’ll love it! Palm trees, sun all year round, the ocean, and so many more opportunities to make money!”
The place Mom described sounded pretty great. I got excited as I imagined what it would be like. I hated our cramped little apartment, and certainly wasn’t going to miss the cockroaches and freezing winters. But most of all I wasn’t going to miss my father. I was tired of feeling scared all the time and sick of the way he would talk to us about our mom. I felt like I was being poisoned. We needed to get away.
I looked over at Lorraine and wondered if she was thinking about Dad too.
She hadn’t seen him for months. On our last visit, they’d argued about a red mark on her neck. He said it was a “love bite” and she insisted it wasn’t.
Then he slapped her in the face. She’d stormed out of the house while I trailed behind with the little girls. I was stunned. He’d attacked her without warning. Would I be next?
Sleep, on the other hand, was a whole other battle.
Roger was coming into my room at night. I no longer thought that I was imagining or making it up, but I still didn’t know why he was there. I started pretending to be asleep when I wasn’t, lying quietly in the dark waiting for something to happen. One night Lorraine was snoring across the room from me and I’d almost fallen asleep when, in my groggy state, I saw Roger’s face hovering above me. At first I thought I was dreaming, but when I sat up, I could feel his fingers inside me.
Before I could say a word he was out the door and down the hallway. I was left alone, knowing something had taken place but not knowing exactly what.
I couldn’t wrap my brain around this incident. Did he really do this to me?
Or was I going crazy? I thought of the road trips to Florida, and the way he and Mom laughed about my “poached eggs” when my top fell down. But if he was doing something wrong wouldn’t my mother notice? It didn’t make any sense. I needed time to think.
I started sleeping in layers of clothes in the sweltering heat of summer. My mother said something about my bedroom light always being on. She thought I was afraid of the monster under my bed. But actually I was afraid of the monster in hers.
Mom and Daniel’s love nest fell apart as quickly as it had begun. Not realizing the heavy demands of an instant family, he’d simply bit off more
than he could chew and within a few weeks he’d thrown them out. Mom called us from a woman’s shelter in Torrance relaying the whole sad story.
She said she was apartment hunting, and that we’d all be under the same roof soon.
I was incredulous. I couldn’t stand her pretending that everything happening to us was normal. My little sisters were living in a shelter! They had to be scared and embarrassed, and I was embarrassed too —for all of us. But there was nothing I could do. Slamming down the phone, I turned around and smashed my fist into a wall.
Stuck without a seat again, I hung on to a pole while we made our way across town. We’d worked out all the kinks in our class schedule. I now had two physical education classes and was able to pawn off the dreaded biology class on Lorraine, who had a much stronger stomach for frog dissection than I did, My sister and I had been swapping classes since the new school year had begun. We got the occasional odd look from our schoolmates, who were hip to our game, but the teachers didn’t notice we weren’t who we said we were, and I was spared the barbaric task of cutting up helpless creatures.
A few hours and several beers later, the party cleared out and I was left with Roger and a full-blown buzz that rendered me even more depressed than when I arrived. My story poured out. He listened and fixed me a cocktail. I told him what had happened with Dean, how he just blew me off, that I didn’t want to have a baby, and how scared I was of becoming just like my mother —dead broke with kids to feed.
Roger helped me find a clinic where I could get an abortion without my mother’s permission. It was set to take place two weeks later, and all I needed was a ride. I returned to school the next day. Racked with guilt, I sought out Dean at school, feeling that maybe I was making a mistake, and hoping he would say something to make it all better, but he avoided me completely. I was damaged goods-used and discarded by age fifteen. He stopped answering the phone at home. He’d see me coming and cross the street. He made me feel like I was a stalker.
I was overwhelmed with rage at my own stupidity. I had been tricked! How could I have ever been so stupid? After what had happened with Ricky, I knew better! I’d learned this fucking lesson already. Why had I allowed myself to believe in love again? I am such a fuck-up! I wanted to punch Dean’s face in, make him pay for not loving me. Once again my father’s words assaulted me. I could hear his voice saying, “If you play you’re gonna pay.” FUCK YOU! I thought, hating that he was right. “Fucking hypocrite,” I said out loud to the trees, thinking of the magazines under his bed with naked spread-eagled girls. Is that all men ever wanted? Fuckers … Shit …
What was I going to do? My rage turned to whimpers as I left the school campus, heading for the beach. Calm down, I told myself. There must be a way out of this.
I had scheduled the procedure for the following week, feeling that I could always change my mind and wanting to find a way to keep the baby but scared to death of what would become of us. As the day crept closer I had serious doubts about what I was going to do. Was it wrong? Could this fetus feel pain? Thoughts like these tested my sanity: I had never hurt a fly
—what was I doing? I had to find another way. I called a hotline for unwed mothers, but after an hour of religious mumbo jumbo, I hung up. They were selling guilt and I’d had enough of that.
It’s hard to put into words the conflict I felt on the day of the procedure. I met Roger in the morning and as he drove me to the clinic I felt my stomach turn inside out. I was beside myself and asked him several times if he thought I was doing the right thing. His words were soft and reassuring as he reminded me that if I didn’t have the abortion I would end up a penniless fifteen-year-old single mother, a thought that horrified me.
As I was prepped for the procedure, I was quiet and sweating profusely. I felt the needle enter my arm and watched the faces of masked strangers around me as the fire from the syringe ran down my arm. I started to protest, a million thoughts racing through my head, until everything went dark.
I woke up feeling dead, sobbing on a single bed in the recovery room. I wondered if Dean could feel my pain, wherever he was. Did he know how much I hurt? I thought of Ricky and how he made me lie there while he took what was only mine to give. I thought of my father who wanted so badly to punish my mother that he hadn’t sent us a dime in support since we left. I thought of Hollywood Boulevard with all those stars on the sidewalk, those people so admired and loved. Why couldn’t I be one of them?
ditched classes the next day and walked into the Department of Motor Vehicles in Torrance with the borrowed birth certificate, had my photo and prints taken, and walked out a different person. I was now twenty-two-year-old Kristie Elizabeth Nussman. It was no different to me than when my sister and I switched identities in school, except this time I was leaving Nora Kuzma behind for good. She was the one who had been raped, used, and abused–and I didn’t want to be her anymore. And as for the consequences of my actions, why would I ever even think of them? I was an angry fifteen-year-old acting blindly from a place of rage and desperation, so I never once contemplated the price I would ultimately pay for giving false information to the DMV.
I flashed on my father’s face again. It had been so long since I’d seen or heard from him. Did he even love me anymore? I pictured myself naked and spread-eagled in one of his girlie magazines. Would he love me then?
Would everyone love me? My body seemed to be the only thing men wanted from me anyway. I fell asleep on the way home.